Tabitha Farrar


About Tabitha Farrar

I work as Head of Marketing for a software startup in Boulder. As a recovered Anorexia sufferer, I advocate for proper understanding of eating disorders in my spare time. On that note, I wrote a book about my own journey into eating again called Love Fat.


Anorexia is a Obsessive Compulsive Spectrum Disorder and should be treated as such …   Recently updated !

While it may be broadly understood that effective knowledge, diagnostics, treatment and resources for eating disorders are lacking, I think that until certain parts of this system are conceptually overhauled we will continue to only see change and improvements happen slowly, and on the fringe rather than in the mainstream treatment model. […]

Anorexia is a Obsessive Compulsive Spectrum Disorder

Anorexia recovery and food rules

Anorexia recovery and food rules: Sometimes it gets worse before it gets better 4

Anorexia: You can’t have that bagel for lunch. That would be a breach of Rule #382 Me: Rule #382? Anorexia: Yes, rule #382: Bagel for breakfast cannot be followed by bagel for lunch. Rule #382 Me: Since when did that rule exist? That wasn’t there before. Anorexia: You weren’t eating […]


Adults in Recovery Workshop Coming Up!   Recently updated !

Not a usual post from me.  I just want to tell you about the upcoming Boulder, Colorado workshop I am offering May 20-12. Actually first of all I want to tell you about a free ED-ucation on Eating Disorders Seminar that I am presenting at in Canada next week. I […]


Anorexia recovery as an adult

Anorexia Recovery as an Adult: My body is not a calculator … and mental hunger counts! 11

When we start trying to control weight, food intake, and energy balance artificially we are messing with a system what we know too little about. Nutritional science is too immature to really know how and when the body uses energy and for what. In recovery from Anorexia as an adult […]


Anorexia Recovery: What about when I am not hungry? 4

I got the below email and decided that I would answer it in blog post because I think that these are questions that many adults in Anorexia recovery will have from time to time. Other than removing the writer’s name I have posted the email in it’s entirety. My responses […]

Anorexia Recovery: What about when I am not hungry?

Living paycheck to paycheck

The trouble with target weights in Anorexia recovery: Living paycheck to paycheck 1

There are certainly problems that arise with “target weights” in Anorexia recovery. The biggest, overarching theme is that they are set too low. I wrote about this in length in this post titled Anorexia Recovery: Why is it that treatment seems to serve my eating disorder better than it serves my […]


Anorexia Recovery: Why is it that treatment seems to serve my eating disorder better than it serves my recovery?

Anorexia Recovery: Why is it that treatment seems to serve my eating disorder better than it serves my recovery? 4

I don’t expect everyone to read this and agree with it. The TL;DR is that I believe that there is a fear that infests many eating disorder treatment approaches and this leads to inadequate intake prescriptions and target weights that do not serve individuals in recovery.  Please read the whole post […]


Anorexia: Mid-Recovery Clusterfuck (Charlie Foxtrot ) 1

This post contains swear words. This is not an apology, I’m just letting you know. 😀 When I went though what I refer to now as my “Mid-Recovery Clusterfuck” I didn’t know what it was. I thought that — despite considering myself at the furthest end of the insanity scale […]

Anorexia: Mid-Recovery Clusterfuck (Charlie Foxtrot )

Scrapping the Anorexia Identity

Finding Recovery Motivation — Scrapping the Anorexia Identity 5

One of the questions I get asked the most by both sufferers and parents/partners of sufferers is; “how did you find the motivation to recover?” often followed closely by, “how do I find the motivation to recover?” or “how does he/she find the motivation to recover?” These are very important questions […]


Anorexia Recovery As An Adult: School Of Failure 4

I’m not someone who berates herself for not getting everything right. Contrary to popular belief about people with Anorexia, I am not a perfectionist, not Type A, and don’t really care if I get an A, B, or C so long as it is a pass. I don’t like failing […]


Eating Disorder Recovery and Family Life: Picky Eaters and Innocent triggers

Today I am going to look at a somewhat awkward but nonetheless important idea: the notion that the eating behaviours of children could in fact act as triggers or stumbling points for the a parent in recovery from a restrictive eating disorder such as Anorexia.   Picky eating? Interestingly, according […]


Eating Disorder Awareness Week 2017 Roundup 1

Phew. That was a busy week. In case you missed them, here is a recap on the podcasts and other projects we put out there this week. I’ve listed the podcasts out below. I think that the most exciting thing that came out of this week for me personally were […]


Anorexia Recovery Eating: There is never too much food

[Video] It is okay to eat a lot of food in Anorexia recovery 8

I am excited to announce that this week we launched Active Eating Disorder Recovery for Adults (AEDRA) Meal Support Service. This is a worldwide service where any person can receive support at a mealtime to help overcome anxiety. We also have post meal support slots available for people who struggle […]


Anorexia Recovery Eating: There is never too much food 17

When I went through extreme hunger in my recovery from Anorexia, my eating disorder told me that nobody on earth had ever experienced this. Mostly it told me that nobody on earth had eaten as much as I was eating. Ever. Since working as a recovery coach for lots of […]

Anorexia Recovery Eating: There is never too much food

Anorexia Recovery Binges: You don't have Binge Eating Disorder!

Anorexia Recovery Binges: You do NOT have Binge Eating Disorder! 9

When in recovery from a restrictive eating disorder such as Anorexia Nervosa or a subset of it, many of us experience something I like to refer to as “recovery binges.” This post is written from the point of view of a person who has recovered from Anorexia, but can be […]


Just Launched: Online (Global) Meal Support Service for Eating Disorders

It doesn’t matter how you try and skirt around it, there is one truth that exists for every restrictive eating disorder (Anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, EDNS etc): You have to treat an eating disorder with food first!  But for many of us eating is so hard! We get intense anxiety […]

online meal support

ethical vegan with anorexia

My Daughter is an “Ethical” Vegan (With Anorexia) … 3

I got the following comment on a post, and I woke up this morning realizing that by trying to be too kind in my response. I had done this women, her daughter, and any other readers an injustice. Here was the original question: My daughter is a vegan who is […]


Extreme Hunger in Anorexia Recovery: What Happens with the Meal Plan? 7

Meal plans can be very helpful in recovery. For those of us who have been restricting heavily, we need a meal plan as without one we simply do not know how or when to eat. In the absence of hunger, meal plans can be a huge plus. Eating disorders also […]

Extreme Hunger in Anorexia Recovery: What Happens with the Meal Plan?

Eating Disorders and Family Life

Eating Disorders and Family Life: Household Triggers

In the last two posts I have looked at the way that eating disorders operate in a family setting when a parent is the sufferer in recovery. The first post addressed how to continue with mealtime support. The second on mealtime tension and shopping etc. This post looks a little further […]


Extreme Hunger in Anorexia Recovery 9

Ready and waiting for the criticism that I may get as a result of writing about this. I don’t care. I don’t believe that shielding adults in recovery from eating disorders from the events that can, and do often, happen along the recovery path helps anyone. When we are taken […]

extreme hunger in anorexia

Eating disorders and family

Eating Disorders and Family Life — Mealtime tension, shopping, food choices and exercise

In my last post on eating disorder recovery for an adult with children, I wrote about mealtimes and how to make them (more of a ) a success in terms of recovery goals with kids at the table. This week I wanted to touch on the impact that the eating […]


Eating Disorders: How to Support an Adult with Children Present 3

You’ve got the Adults Recovery Kit, you’ve got the Partner Recovery Guide to go with it. You and whomever is acting as your Eating Disorder Check Person (EDCP) are on it and you’re hell bent on recovery. So what about the kids? I don’t have kids. However, the issue comes […]

Eating Disorders: How to Support an Adult with Children Present

Questioning Perfectionism In Anorexia

Questioning Perfectionism In Anorexia 2

I am often told by eating disorder therapists and literature that I am a perfectionist. I am not a perfectionist. I was not a perfectionist before Anorexia. I was not a perfectionist during Anorexia. I am not a perfectionist now. If you don’t believe me, ask my husband (Who is, […]


Eating Disorder Recovery — A Matter of Life and … Half Life 4

Eating disorders are a matter of life and death. They can and do kill. Let’s not forget that. But they are also, for many, a matter of life and half life. I’m talking about the people for whom having an eating disorder turns from a year into a lifetime. The […]

A Matter of Life and ... Half Life