Tabitha Farrar


Finding Recovery Motivation — Scrapping the Anorexia Identity 5   Recently updated !

One of the questions I get asked the most by both sufferers and parents/partners of sufferers is; “how did you find the motivation to recover?” often followed closely by, “how do I find the motivation to recover?” or “how does he/she find the motivation to recover?” These are very important questions […]

Scrapping the Anorexia Identity

Eating Disorder Recovery and Family Life: Picky Eaters and Innocent triggers

Today I am going to look at a somewhat awkward but nonetheless important idea: the notion that the eating behaviours of children could in fact act as triggers or stumbling points for the a parent in recovery from a restrictive eating disorder such as Anorexia.   Picky eating? Interestingly, according […]


Anorexia Recovery Binges: You do NOT have Binge Eating Disorder! 8

When in recovery from a restrictive eating disorder such as Anorexia Nervosa or a subset of it, many of us experience something I like to refer to as “recovery binges.” This post is written from the point of view of a person who has recovered from Anorexia, but can be […]

Anorexia Recovery Binges: You don't have Binge Eating Disorder!

Negative Energy Balance or Energy Deficit in Anorexia

Negative Energy Balance or Energy Deficit in Anorexia 3

This post explains negative energy balance in eating disorders.   What is a negative energy balance (sometimes called energy deficit)? Anything that means that the energy you put out is greater than the energy you put in. The most common — although not only — cause of such an energy deficit […]


Help Your Partner Overcome an Eating Disorder (Full Guide) 1

This guide is designed to help partners/ friends/ parents of adult sufferers of eating disorders help that person recover. It is based on the principles of family based therapy and how to apply them to an adult with an eating disorder. Each chapter is accompanied with an audio file that […]

Help Your Partner Overcome an Eating Disorder

7 Tips for Getting a Person with an Eating Disorder to Eat with Eva Musby 1

  In this podcast you will hear my conversation with Eva Musby. We talk about her experience with family-based therapy (or family-based treatment) as a mother. We also go into the key points that Eva addresses in her book and give you Getting a Person with an Eating Disorder to Eat: […]


You are invited: I just created a Slack for us (aka forum) 3   Recently updated !

Heya, This is a note rather than a blog post. Long story short I get a ton of emails from people in recovery and people helping others recover. I always reply and do my best to be a support but sometimes wish I didn’t have a full time job and […]


How Anorexia Affected My Personality (Introvert/Extrovert) 3

Anorexia affected my personality in many ways. Today I am going to focus on the introvert/extrovert aspect. First off: I pass no judgement whatsoever on the values associated with introversion and extroversion, None whatsoever. This post is nothing to do with saying one is better than the other. Both are […]


Eating Disorders and Money – Part Two 3

Last week I wrote about eating disorders and money for the first time. One thing the comments on Facebook and the post confirmed is that many people suffering from eating disorders also experience strange feelings/thoughts/ behaviours around money. In this post I’m going to highlight a few of the comments […]

Eating Disorders and Money

Anorexia and Money: Recovery meant I had to look at that relationship too! 9

What on earth has Anorexia got to do with money? More than you think. At least in my case. And, according to the comments and emails I get, I am not alone in having a very whacked relationship with money when I had an eating disorder.   Starting at the […]


Sustaining Eating Disorder Recovery — Conscious to Unconscious Competence 3

Last week I wrote about unconscious incompetence moving to conscious incompetence. Where that places you is knowing what you’re not great at. This week we’ll look into the next stages of eating disorder recovery so far as this model of competence goes. Check out last weeks post before you read […]


Conscious Incompetence in Adult Eating Disorder Recovery 1

“Conscious Incompetence” sounds like one of those whack psych terms that I am convinced psychologists make up so that they sound more scientific and complicated than they really are. Bear with me. All conscious incompetence really means is stuff you don’t know that you don’t know you don’t know. For […]


Taking Ownership of ED Recovery: Why it is my fault if I relapse and no excuses! 4

Taking what I call “extreme ownership” of my eating disorder recovery was an important step for me. As an adult with Anorexia, it was crucial for me to understand that the only person at fault if I relapse is ME. And to be crystal clear from the start, taking ownership […]


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Podcast Episode on How to Overcome Fear of Food in Anorexia 8

I explained in the last podcast how I used information from the FEAST website on Family-Based Therapy to kick start my own inner mealtime matron. That was probably the single biggest initiative for me in my recovery — establishing that my eating disorder was not “me”, which let to being able […]


New Podcast Episode: How I used Family-Based Therapy in Anorexia Recovery

This is not the podcast, to get it, you have to go to the Podcast Episode Here.  If you subscribe in iTunes, you’ll get new podcast episodes each week as I publish them directly on your phone. Here is the intro: Last week I recorded a podcast with Dr. Lauren […]

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Why “down-talking” the seriousness of eating disorders doesn’t help recovery 5

  When one tells a person with an ED to recover when they are ready, one mulcts them of time spent ED free. I had this fantastically enlightening email conversation with a reader today. Let’s call her Jennifer. We were going back and forth over some questions about recovery that she had […]


Back to the veganism and eating disorders conversation 16

I wrote a post sometime last year now about my opinion on why people who have suffered from an eating disorder such as Anorexia cannot, and should not be vegan. When I wrote it I assumed that I would get a fair amount of backlash from vegans—I expected criticism and welcome […]


It’s my 10-year Anorexia recovery anniversary! 5

It’s my 10 year Anorexia recovery anniversary this month, and I’m really bloody excited about it! Those who know me know that I don’t “do” birthdays or publicly celebrate anything much, but this—overcoming Anorexia—is something I am openly proud of.   It started in May 2006   In May 2006, […]


Eating Disorder Advocacy

The Role of the Non-Professional Community in Eating Disorder Advocacy 1

I’ve been sprouting on about why I don’t think that sufferers and ex-sufferers of eating disorders make the best ED therapists. If you need to recap the posts are: Why Eating Disorder Treatment Needs an Overhaul Why I Don’t Think Ex-Sufferers Should Treat Eating Disorders Why Do So Many Ex-Sufferers […]


How do you cope with eating disorder recovery wobbles? 7

I just love it when readers ask me to write about something. I got this request a couple of days ago: “I wonder if you can, when time allows, write about the ways you have coped with any wobbles during recovery. Even afterwards, how have you managed to become so […]

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Recovery is for life, not just for weight gain 7

Recovery is for life, not just for weight gain. I think that many people—including therapists and sufferers—think that eating disorder recovery is just about gaining weight, and that after that it all goes away. And while gaining weight is so very important and it is true that the ED thoughts […]


Can you separate your triggers from your eating disorder? 8

Can you separate your triggers from your eating disorder? In my last post I skimmed over this point, but I think it is incredibly important for both active and long-term recovery. The day that I really understood that my eating disorder was a mental disease with a genetic base was the […]

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