EDAW 2017 Adults with Eating Disorders: Entrenched Behaviors and Identity Crisis

In this special podcast for Eating Disorder Awareness week, I share some stories and experiences from adults in recovery from eating disorders. Today the focus is entrenched behaviours and overcoming the identity crisis that so many people in recovery from long term eating disorders have to deal with.

Adults in recovery from eating disorders face different challenges than children and teenagers do. The idea behind AEDRA — Active Eating Disorder Recovery for Adults is that we focus on adults and the specific problems that an adult in recovery will face.


Active Eating Disorder Recovery for Adults website: http://www.adulteatingdisorderrecovery.com/en/

Private adults only online support group: http://tabithafarrar.com/slack-forum/

Blogs on Anorexia and Money: http://tabithafarrar.com/2016/10/anorexia-money-recovery-meant-look-relationship/

Twitter @Love_Fat_    and @ED_MealSupport

If you want to send me your thoughts on tomorrow’s topic please email me at info@tabithafarrar.com. The Topics that will be covered this week are as follows:

Mon – Work/money – financial issues due to being sick
Tue – Family – partners and children
Wed – Entrenched behaviours/ personal identity crisis after 5,10,20,30 + years of ED identity
Thur – Loneliness
Fri – Not being treated like an adult in treatment

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  1. I’m a little confused…you never did the podcast on Not Being Treated Like an Adult in treatment…

  2. Hi Tabitha, firstly thank you endlessly for this resource & all the ways in which you reach out & give all that you do to help others recover.
    Listening to this greatly resonated with me. But i have some questions/big issues that i know hold me back, despite wanting so so much to not have anorexia & to be a healthy weight.
    I’ve had anorexia for a wasted 23yrs. My entire teenage and adult life so far. One of the major fears I’ve recently come to recognise as i persist with my battle to free myself from this cage is- i am afraid of mySELF. I realise i do not trust my SELF, my instincts, my desires, my personality or my ability to regulate myself in a ‘normal’ healthy way. I know this links back to pre- anorexia and experiences i had that made me feel and believe I as ‘me’ is unacceptable, unloveable, ‘too much’.
    I want so badly to ‘blossom ‘ and express myself in many ways but fear too that by ‘unleashing’ myself and allowing myself to emerge & develop o the woman i am i will be abhorrent, or rejected, disliked. This part sounds vain- but i also fear my true self may be a threat to peers (pre anorexia if i ever received praise or a compliment or had something good happen for me, then i was punished my another person &/ or that person would tell me how awful they felt about it & their unhappiness and often passive aggressive hostility towards me induced such guilt and anxiety. ). How do i gain without causing others to hurt, or dislike, or reject, or lose?

    Rationally i can see that what i am doing is magnifying the impact being a normal functioning human can have. But deeply seated is a belief that i am unable to be a normal functioning person and that the exaggerated reactions to me (being my ‘self’) in the past (& my very over sensitive/over empathic tendencies did not help me shrug these off) means that i must ‘silence’ ‘shrink’, and almost be inert. Harmless. But i am not harmless like this due to the pain and anxiety i cause my loved ones. I also WANT to be able to emerge and live and be my self. It is , as you see a frustrating and distressing way to be.
    Sorry- I’ve gone on a lot more than anticipated. Thank you
    Lu xxx

  3. Your podcasts have given me so much hope. So many of the things you’ve said have armed me for my recovery and I honestly don’t know what I would have done if you hadn’t told me the things I needed to hear. I am eternally grateful.

  4. Your podcasts have given me so much hope. So much of what you say is resonates with me; I feel like you are handing me a little glowing embers in a blizzard and all I have to do is breathe life into them and wait for their warmth to envelop me. You have told me things I needed to hear desperately on countless occasions and I am eternally grateful for these resources in aiding my recovery. Thank you for all that you do.