anorexia


My Daughter is an “Ethical” Vegan (With Anorexia) … 3

I got the following comment on a post, and I woke up this morning realizing that by trying to be too kind in my response. I had done this women, her daughter, and any other readers an injustice. Here was the original question: My daughter is a vegan who is […]

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Extreme Hunger in Anorexia Recovery 9

Ready and waiting for the criticism that I may get as a result of writing about this. I don’t care. I don’t believe that shielding adults in recovery from eating disorders from the events that can, and do often, happen along the recovery path helps anyone. When we are taken […]


Eating Disorders: How to Support an Adult with Children Present 3

You’ve got the Adults Recovery Kit, you’ve got the Partner Recovery Guide to go with it. You and whomever is acting as your Eating Disorder Check Person (EDCP) are on it and you’re hell bent on recovery. So what about the kids? I don’t have kids. However, the issue comes […]

Eating Disorders: How to Support an Adult with Children Present

A Matter of Life and ... Half Life

Eating Disorder Recovery — A Matter of Life and … Half Life 4

Eating disorders are a matter of life and death. They can and do kill. Let’s not forget that. But they are also, for many, a matter of life and half life. I’m talking about the people for whom having an eating disorder turns from a year into a lifetime. The […]


Meditation for Eating Disorders — A Cynics Guide 2

It cracks me up that people assume I am a spiritual person because I meditate. I’m not. I don’t meditate because I am trying to be a good person either. I meditate because it helps me keep my shit together.  I’m a twice certified yoga instructor. I’ve taught hundreds of […]

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Overshoot in Eating Disorder Recovery

Overshoot in Eating Disorder Recovery 15

This blog post is going to address overshoot in eating disorder recovery. It is the first of a couple that I have lined up on this incredibly important topic. Here’s the deal with overshooting your pre-eating disorder weight in recovery: you need to do it. In scientific terms overshoot is […]


Help Your Partner Overcome an Eating Disorder (Full Guide) 1

This guide is designed to help partners/ friends/ parents of adult sufferers of eating disorders help that person recover. It is based on the principles of family based therapy and how to apply them to an adult with an eating disorder. Each chapter is accompanied with an audio file that […]

Help Your Partner Overcome an Eating Disorder

7 Tips for Getting a Person with an Eating Disorder to Eat with Eva Musby 1

  In this podcast you will hear my conversation with Eva Musby. We talk about her experience with family-based therapy (or family-based treatment) as a mother. We also go into the key points that Eva addresses in her book and give you Getting a Person with an Eating Disorder to Eat: […]


How Anorexia Affected My Personality (Introvert/Extrovert) 4

Anorexia affected my personality in many ways. Today I am going to focus on the introvert/extrovert aspect. First off: I pass no judgement whatsoever on the values associated with introversion and extroversion, None whatsoever. This post is nothing to do with saying one is better than the other. Both are […]


Sustaining Eating Disorder Recovery — Conscious to Unconscious Competence 3

Last week I wrote about unconscious incompetence moving to conscious incompetence. Where that places you is knowing what you’re not great at. This week we’ll look into the next stages of eating disorder recovery so far as this model of competence goes. Check out last weeks post before you read […]


Why I don’t use “Anorexic” to describe people with Anorexia Nervosa 2

I understand that most people just use the term “Anorexic” to describe a person with Anorexia out of habit and convenience. I just prefer not to use it myself. So much so, that I often use the term “eating disorder” just because that can’t be turned into a noun. You can’t […]


Taking Ownership of ED Recovery: Why it is my fault if I relapse and no excuses! 4

Taking what I call “extreme ownership” of my eating disorder recovery was an important step for me. As an adult with Anorexia, it was crucial for me to understand that the only person at fault if I relapse is ME. And to be crystal clear from the start, taking ownership […]


Adults with Eating Disorders Recovery Kit 2

One the years I have answered hundreds if not thousands of emails asking me for advice on recovery. This Adults with Eating Disorders Recovery Kit outlines the strategies that I used in order to recover from Anorexia. It is not supposed to be an alternative to professional treatment, but an […]

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Back to the veganism and eating disorders conversation 16

I wrote a post sometime last year now about my opinion on why people who have suffered from an eating disorder such as Anorexia cannot, and should not be vegan. When I wrote it I assumed that I would get a fair amount of backlash from vegans—I expected criticism and welcome […]


It’s my 10-year Anorexia recovery anniversary! 5

It’s my 10 year Anorexia recovery anniversary this month, and I’m really bloody excited about it! Those who know me know that I don’t “do” birthdays or publicly celebrate anything much, but this—overcoming Anorexia—is something I am openly proud of.   It started in May 2006   In May 2006, […]


Eating Disorder Advocacy

The Role of the Non-Professional Community in Eating Disorder Advocacy 1

I’ve been sprouting on about why I don’t think that sufferers and ex-sufferers of eating disorders make the best ED therapists. If you need to recap the posts are: Why Eating Disorder Treatment Needs an Overhaul Why I Don’t Think Ex-Sufferers Should Treat Eating Disorders Why Do So Many Ex-Sufferers […]


How do you cope with eating disorder recovery wobbles? 7

I just love it when readers ask me to write about something. I got this request a couple of days ago: “I wonder if you can, when time allows, write about the ways you have coped with any wobbles during recovery. Even afterwards, how have you managed to become so […]

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Recovery is for life, not just for weight gain 7

Recovery is for life, not just for weight gain. I think that many people—including therapists and sufferers—think that eating disorder recovery is just about gaining weight, and that after that it all goes away. And while gaining weight is so very important and it is true that the ED thoughts […]


Midweek Rant: Rosewood Ranch 4

An advocate friend drew my attention to a particularly awful website today. It’s riled me up something rotten. “Love addiction and eating disorders both often start with dysfunctional roles in the family of origin.” You have got to be shitting me. This is the first line in Rosewood Ranch Santa Monica’s article on […]


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Why Eating Disorder Treatment Needs an Overhaul 15

There was a study published this month that showed what many of us have been saying for a long time: eating disorder treatment is massively ineffective in many cases and the industry is badly in need of some sort of overhaul. The study was published under the title Clinicians’ Attitudes, Concerns, […]


Anorexia Recovery: The Scales and Weighing Myself 3

I stated in an earlier post that I weigh myself regularly as part of my personal Anorexia recovery plan. I imagine that some readers physically recoiled in horror when they read that, so I’ll explain why here. Before I get into that, this: What works for me might not work […]

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Eating Disorder Recovery

Eating Disorder Recovery: What that looks like for me now 16

Each individual has a slightly different version of eating disorder recovery. I am often asked (mostly by parents of people with Anorexia) what I mean when I say I am recovered, and what that actually looks like. What is the difference between recovered and cured? Is one ever cured from […]


Running Hostage to an Eating Disorder

This is another section of Love Fat that I took out of the book as I rewrote it in another chapter. It is following on from the last post that I published and the topic is my obsession with running. As I have explained before, I now have a healthy relationship […]


Anorexia and Obsessive Exercise 2

This is another section of Love Fat that didn’t make the cut. This section describes the mental anguish that I was in when my eating disorder was pushing me to exercise for a minimum of six hours every day. In the book, I have just come back from another run: […]


How Eating Disorders Ruin Relationships 3

Eating disorders are a bitch, and anorexia turned me into one too. In America, “candy” is what we Brits refer to as “sweets.” Today I’m not writing about sweets; I’m writing about my little sister: Candice. Below is another Love Fat edit out. I cannot reliably remember why I removed […]