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The trouble with target weights in Anorexia recovery: Living paycheck to paycheck 4

There are certainly problems that arise with “target weights” in Anorexia recovery. The biggest, overarching theme is that they are set too low. I wrote about this in length in this post titled Anorexia Recovery: Why is it that treatment seems to serve my eating disorder better than it serves my […]

Living paycheck to paycheck

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Extreme Hunger in Anorexia Recovery 25

Ready and waiting for the criticism that I may get as a result of writing about this. I don’t care. I don’t believe that shielding adults in recovery from eating disorders from the events that can, and do often, happen along the recovery path helps anyone. When we are taken […]


Christmas Day Eating Disorder Contract and Planning 1

Christmas day is nearly here. If you have an eating disorder, or you have one in your household, you know how stressful a time this can be. I’m sick of eating disorders ruining things. I bet you are too. Let’s plan not to allow it to ruin this Christmas! Preparation […]


Binge Eating in Eating Disorder Recovery

Binge Eating in Eating Disorder Recovery 1

Many of us in recovery from eating disorder experience binge eating. I certainly did, and I wrote about it extensively in my book, Love Fat. I consider it to be a pretty normal phase in eating disorder recovery from illnesses such as Anorexia. Here’s the deal. Your body has been […]


You are invited: I just created a Slack for us (aka forum) 3

Heya, This is a note rather than a blog post. Long story short I get a ton of emails from people in recovery and people helping others recover. I always reply and do my best to be a support but sometimes wish I didn’t have a full time job and […]


How Anorexia Affected My Personality (Introvert/Extrovert) 6

Anorexia affected my personality in many ways. Today I am going to focus on the introvert/extrovert aspect. First off: I pass no judgement whatsoever on the values associated with introversion and extroversion, None whatsoever. This post is nothing to do with saying one is better than the other. Both are […]


Eating Disorders and Money – Part Two 3

Last week I wrote about eating disorders and money for the first time. One thing the comments on Facebook and the post confirmed is that many people suffering from eating disorders also experience strange feelings/thoughts/ behaviours around money. In this post I’m going to highlight a few of the comments […]

Eating Disorders and Money

Sustaining Eating Disorder Recovery — Conscious to Unconscious Competence 3

Last week I wrote about unconscious incompetence moving to conscious incompetence. Where that places you is knowing what you’re not great at. This week we’ll look into the next stages of eating disorder recovery so far as this model of competence goes. Check out last weeks post before you read […]


Adults with Eating Disorders Recovery Kit 2

One the years I have answered hundreds if not thousands of emails asking me for advice on recovery. This Adults with Eating Disorders Recovery Kit outlines the strategies that I used in order to recover from Anorexia. It is not supposed to be an alternative to professional treatment, but an […]

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Adults with Anorexia: My Anti-Relapse Plan 7

Resources around Family-Based Therapy (FBT) are getting better for parents who are caring for a child with an eating disorder. This is a very good thing. But for those of us who are adults with the disease, it can be very difficult to find help. Relapse rate is very high, […]


New Podcast Episode: How I used Family-Based Therapy in Anorexia Recovery

This is not the podcast, to get it, you have to go to the Podcast Episode Here.  If you subscribe in iTunes, you’ll get new podcast episodes each week as I publish them directly on your phone. Here is the intro: Last week I recorded a podcast with Dr. Lauren […]

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Back to the veganism and eating disorders conversation 17

I wrote a post sometime last year now about my opinion on why people who have suffered from an eating disorder such as Anorexia cannot, and should not be vegan. When I wrote it I assumed that I would get a fair amount of backlash from vegans—I expected criticism and welcome […]


It’s my 10-year Anorexia recovery anniversary! 5

It’s my 10 year Anorexia recovery anniversary this month, and I’m really bloody excited about it! Those who know me know that I don’t “do” birthdays or publicly celebrate anything much, but this—overcoming Anorexia—is something I am openly proud of.   It started in May 2006   In May 2006, […]


The Role of the Non-Professional Community in Eating Disorder Advocacy 1

I’ve been sprouting on about why I don’t think that sufferers and ex-sufferers of eating disorders make the best ED therapists. If you need to recap the posts are: Why Eating Disorder Treatment Needs an Overhaul Why I Don’t Think Ex-Sufferers Should Treat Eating Disorders Why Do So Many Ex-Sufferers […]

Eating Disorder Advocacy

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How do you cope with eating disorder recovery wobbles? 7

I just love it when readers ask me to write about something. I got this request a couple of days ago: “I wonder if you can, when time allows, write about the ways you have coped with any wobbles during recovery. Even afterwards, how have you managed to become so […]


Recovery is for life, not just for weight gain 7

Recovery is for life, not just for weight gain. I think that many people—including therapists and sufferers—think that eating disorder recovery is just about gaining weight, and that after that it all goes away. And while gaining weight is so very important and it is true that the ED thoughts […]


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Can you separate your triggers from your eating disorder? 8

Can you separate your triggers from your eating disorder? In my last post I skimmed over this point, but I think it is incredibly important for both active and long-term recovery. The day that I really understood that my eating disorder was a mental disease with a genetic base was the […]


Anorexia Recovery: The Scales and Weighing Myself 3

I stated in an earlier post that I weigh myself regularly as part of my personal Anorexia recovery plan. I imagine that some readers physically recoiled in horror when they read that, so I’ll explain why here. Before I get into that, this: What works for me might not work […]

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Eating Disorder Recovery: What that looks like for me now 16

Each individual has a slightly different version of eating disorder recovery. I am often asked (mostly by parents of people with Anorexia) what I mean when I say I am recovered, and what that actually looks like. What is the difference between recovered and cured? Is one ever cured from […]


Anorexia and Christmas Day: Survivor Tips 4

I used to dread Christmas Day. It is a person with Anorexia’s worst nightmare. Anorexia and Christmas don’t really like one another.  The gym is closed. There is food everywhere. It’s a big sit down family meal with everyone there to see how little you are eating and ask you if you’d […]

Anorexia and Christmas

Veganism and Eating Disorders: Let’s Be Frank 45

Before I piss off any vegans with this post, let’s get one thing straight: I have nothing against vegans, nor am I saying that nobody can be vegan. I am not attacking veganism—frankly I don’t really give a shit what other people do and don’t eat anymore (and that’s a relief, […]


Running Hostage to an Eating Disorder

This is another section of Love Fat that I took out of the book as I rewrote it in another chapter. It is following on from the last post that I published and the topic is my obsession with running. As I have explained before, I now have a healthy relationship […]


Anorexia and Obsessive Exercise 2

This is another section of Love Fat that didn’t make the cut. This section describes the mental anguish that I was in when my eating disorder was pushing me to exercise for a minimum of six hours every day. In the book, I have just come back from another run: […]


How Eating Disorders Ruin Relationships 3

Eating disorders are a bitch, and anorexia turned me into one too. In America, “candy” is what we Brits refer to as “sweets.” Today I’m not writing about sweets; I’m writing about my little sister: Candice. Below is another Love Fat edit out. I cannot reliably remember why I removed […]