There was a heated discussion on Facebook after I posted a podcast on orthorexia last week. It seems that many people interpret the message of “it is okay to eat “unhealthy” food without restriction” as “all you should eat is “unhealthy” food all the time.”
And it is very interesting to me that many people are so binary about this. You are either restricting, or you are eating “junk” food 24/7. The reality is that eating without restriction tends to actually result in a naturally balanced diet that suits your, unique, body. This is because the human body is super-smart, and the less you interfere with what it asks for and the more you provide it with what it asks for without judgement, the more it is able to self-regulate.
Let’s talk about sex for a moment.
Say you meet a new partner. And you start dating. There is all this anticipation. Lust. You want what you can’t have or have not yet had. When you really get it together and start having sex, you likely have a lot of sex. Then, after that lovely little “honeymoon” period, you become less like rabbits and you settle into having sex when you both want it. Not all the time. Hopefully not none of the time. Just when you feel like it.
Most of us are the same way about food. If you are not allowed a food, or only allowed it on special occasions, you want it. So then, when you do have it, you want a lot of it. On the other hand, if you were to allow yourself to have it without restriction, after a while you would settle in to having this food when you felt like it. Not all the time. Not never. Just whenever you felt like it.
What does eating without restriction actually mean?
Eating without restriction means that you eat what you want when you want it — in the quantity that you want it. That doesn’t necessarily equate to eating tonnes of chocolate and burgers every day forever. Unless that is what your body wants and needs, and who am I to judge if that is the case. For a body in a state of malnutrition, highly caloric foods are often wanted by the body for the duration of the recovery period. This is because the body is smart, and it knows it needs these types of foods. (Note: you do not have to be clinically underweight in order to be in malnutrition, and that restriction can lead to malnutrition in any size body.)
Taking malnutrition out of the picture, the same applies for many people who do not allow themselves to eat what they want: they want it more. Ironically, when we restrict a food and we do not allow ourselves to have that food as often as we would really like, the brain starts of overly focus on that food. The brain wants that food more. We desire what is forbidden. It’s a bit like if someone tells you not to push the red button, then all you can think about is the red button. So if one restricts chocolate, one is more likely to want to eat chocolate. If one restricts sugar, one is more likely to want to eat a lot of sugary food when faced with it. Therefore it is restriction that results in an upset of the natural balance. Because you have interfered with the bodies ability to self-regulate, it reacts by going into a scarcity mindset.
Thankfully, studies are beginning to find evidence to support what to my mind is common sense: that is is actually restriction that influences a tendency to “binge” on highly palatable foods. This study here shows that sugar addiction may not actually be addiction at all. Rather, that the problem is not allowing access to sugary foods creates a very strong desire to eat sugary foods in high quantities.
We find little evidence to support sugar addiction in humans, and findings from the animal literature suggest that addiction-like behaviours, such as bingeing, occur only in the context of intermittent access to sugar. These behaviours likely arise from intermittent access to sweet tasting or highly palatable foods, not the neurochemical effects of sugar.
Eating without restriction in recovery
Eating without restriction once fully recovered
The notion is the same. I still eat what I want, when I want it, in the quantity that I want. However, because my body is no longer in a state of malnutrition, it doesn’t need to be telling me to eat 10,000 (or more) calories a day any more. I’d say I still eat more than most people, but that is only because — let’s face it — most people have fallen into the restriction trap. Our culture makes it seem normal to suppress your bodyweight and be on a diet. Fuck that. It evidently doesn’t work.
Because I have, for years, allowed myself to eat “unhealthy” foods without restriction, my brain doesn’t crave them every second of the day. So, the notion of unrestricted eating is still the same, but as you move through recovery you will find that eating without restriction looks different depending on where your body is at and what it needs.
Now, eating without restriction looks like on between 3-4000 calories a day. I dunno. I haven’t counted in a while. It also looks like a very varied diet. Sure, I eat a fair amount of burgers (because I love them) but that is not all I eat.
The point is, if you keep your judgement out of the way, and if you stop trying to suppress what you eat, your body will get out of malnutrition and then it will self-regulate. Your diet will naturally balance itself. Your metabolism will settle and you will desire to eat what you need in order to sustain your natural, healthy, body weight.
The even more important point is this: You eat without restriction for life! Not just for recovery. You never, ever, restrict. It is not like you get to a certain weight and then you start restricting again. That is not recovery, that is restriction and weight suppression. That is just anorexia at a higher weight.
Do not judge what you want to eat
Do not judge when you want to eat
Do not judge the quantity that you want to eat
Do not judge why you want to eat.
Is eating unrestricted the same as intuitive eating?
Not really and kind of. If you are not a person with an eating disorder the you be as intuitive as you like. If you are a person with an eating disorder you have to be smart about it. If your “intuition” tells you that you want to eat salad for lunch you have to know that is not enough, and you have to be suspicious. Anorexia can dress up as intuition in that way. Basically if your intuition is asking for overly healthy foods the whole time, or low-calorie foods, then you have to push it aside and dig a little deeper. When you do, you will likely find that the real, honest you would love pizza, but that desire is being suppressed by fear.
Be wary. Sometimes you are restricting without even knowing it. But you are smart, I know you are, so I know you can work this out.