Tabitha Farrar

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Recovery commitments: Allow it to be simple

Over the next couple of weeks I will be posting blogs focusing on “recovery commitments.” These recovery commitments posts will be outlining some of the most common reasons that people in recovery get anxious and stressed and suggesting some simplifications for those moments. I believe that one of the fundamental […]

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When you partner has an eating disorder: Avoiding intimacy

This blog is for partners of adults with eating disorders. However, I’m writing it from the perspective of a person with an eating disorder. I was a person with an eating disorder who loved her partner, but there were times when my actions might have given the opposite impression. So, […]

Family support: is it appropriate for adults too? [Podcast]

In this podcast I talk about my personal highlights from the ICED conference presentation that I was part this year with Rebecka Peeples, Rachel Millner and Therese Waterhaus.   Rebecka Peebles Rebecka Peebles, MD, is an Adolescent Medicine Specialist and Co-director of the Eating Disorder Assessment and Treatment Program at […]

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Complusive Movement Cold Turkey: Creating space for new things

I mentioned the uncomfortable silence that stopping the compulsions and rituals that many of us with anorexia establish in a previous blog on lower-level movement here. This post is an elaboration on that. A “spiritually enlightened” person once said this to me: “You have to first create space for new […]

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Why my eating disorder turned me into a grocery thief [Podcast]

Personal story time! Not everyone who is suffering from long-term malnutrition turns to stealing, but I think it is a lot more prevalent than most people assume it is. It makes sense why a brain that believes resources are scarce would feel the need to take without giving anything away. […]

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Your Brain on Malnutrition: Eating Disorders and Money

I know I have blogged about eating disorders and money before. I have even done some podcasts on it. But I want to make sure that people link anxiety around spending money, and the scarcity mindset that food restriction creates. Scarcity mindset: For the evolving human, food and resource scarcity […]

Recovery Stories: Unrestricted eating and freedom [Podcast]

In this podcast, Tabitha talks to Drake, who is in recovery from an eating disorder and wanted to share some hope.   The Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast Transcript (With thanks to Marie)    Hello there, welcome to this weeks podcast. The week we’ve got another recovery story. A guy called […]

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Your Brain on Malnutrition: Anorexia and Hoarding

I blogged about the scarcity mindset last week. Now I will go a little more into some of the more common behavioral repercussions that I have noticed people with malnourished brains tend to develop. This blog post is about hoarding. Not all of you reading this will have developed a […]

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Your Brain on Malnutrition: Scarcity Mindset

I’ve done a load of YouTube videos on “your brain on malnutrition” but this is such an important aspect of understanding your anorexia or eating disorder behaviours that I’m going to start a series on it in this blog too. Scarcity mindset is what your brain adopts when it believes […]

Recovery Stories: The dangers of diabulimia

In this podcast Tabitha talks to a person in recovery about her struggles with diabulimia.   link to the BBC diabulimia documentary mentioned: https://youtu.be/tSLjM6cZaTo The Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast Recovery Stories: The Dangers of Diabulimia Tabitha: Hello there, welcome to this weeks podcast. This week I’m going to be talking […]

Mid-Recovery Clusterfuck: Body Guilt

I’ve written about Mid-Recovery Clusterfuck stuff before, more in the sense of the emotions that blow up when your brain starts to care more about other people and life experiences than it does about obsessing over food and exercise. And the discomfort and grief that comes with the realisation that […]

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Recovery Stories: Recovering despite weight stigma in eating disorder treatment [Podcast]

In this podcast Tabitha talks to Sarah Thompson about her recovery, and her journey into body positivity. We also discuss: Being queer and having an eating disorder Weight stigma in eating disorder treatment The Be Nourished retreat and certification Recovery in an environment that encourages restriction and weight loss Sarah […]

Let’s talk about sex … (and relationships)

Salt and Pepper. Yeah, I’m old. Sex and anorexia don’t usually go all that well together. I’ve known one or two people who have told me that their sex drive actually went up when they were in malnutrition, but that tends to be the anomaly. Most of us experience a […]

[Podcast] Dr Colleen Reichmann on recovery, HEAS, body diversity, and advocacy.

In this podcast Tabitha chats to Dr Colleen Reichmann about her recovery, health at every size, body diversity, and advoacy and activism. Dr. Colleen Reichmann is a licensed clinical psychologist, practicing in Williamsburg, VA. She works in her private practice, Wildflower Therapy, and is a staff psychologist at the College […]

Just because you are an adult with anorexia doesn’t mean shouldn’t have support

I’ve got a presentation coming up with the fabulous Rebecka Peebles, Rachel Millner, and Therese Waterhaus in April at AED that stems from this topic. It is titled “Why go it alone? How Family-based Treatment of Young Adults with Anorexia is Possible and Productive in Reaching a Full Recovery” If you’re […]

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Podcast: Study shows diet talk and behaviour passes down through generations

In this podcast Tabitha Farrar talks to Jerica Berge about a new study illistrating how diet talk and encouragement to diet can be passed down through generations Parent Encouragement to Diet From Adolescence Into Adulthood May Cause Intergenerational Harm Study: http://www.practiceupdate.com/content/parent-encouragement-to-diet-from-adolescence-into-adulthood-may-cause-intergenerational-harm/65474 In this longitudinal study 556 adolescents were surveyed when in […]

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New Book: Rehabilitate, Rewire, Recover!

Note: this is available for Kindle pre-order right now. Give it about 10 days and the print option will also be available.  I have put all my blogs, podcasts, and YouTune channel information into one book! This book is for adults in recovery from anorexia, as the recovery process is […]

Recovery Stories: Allow for body diversity when setting target weights

(Transcript for this podcast is available if you scroll down! Thanks toMarie for transcribing it!) In this podcast Tabitha talks to the fabulous Carrie Arnold about the problems associated with setting target weight too long: Topics covered: – Body diversity – What happens in patients minds when target weight are […]

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Stop gaslighting eating disorder patients (and parents)

Gaslighting = manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity. Gaslighting is usually thought of in a domestic abuse setting but also happens in many other settings — including therapy. This sort of behaviour is not limited to eating disorder patients. It’s the story of therapists using their authority, […]

Recovery Stories: Elisa Oras, feast eating, and coming out the other side [Podcast]

  In this podcast Tabitha talks to Elisa Oras about recovery.  Topics covered include: – Anorexia in people in larger bodies – Bulimia, and binge/purge subtypes – Feast eating in recovery – Eating lots of food! – Non-traditional recovery routes – The important of listening to your body and allowing […]

Question/Answer: Why is it so difficult for me to eat more?

Here’s a question I got via email today. I will write here my opinion on this question. I would like to remind readers that my opinion is just that, and that we are all unique individuals so it would be impossible for my general opinion on anything at all to […]

Rachel Millner: School Dinner Policing, BMI Report Cards, and the importance of a HAES approach for kids

In this episode, Tabitha talks to the wonderful Rachel Millner about fat-phobia in schools: BMI report cards School dinner policing Health at Every Size Body Diversity Fat-phobia How to trust kids to eat Find out more about Rachel Millner here –> http://www.rachelmillner.com/ Here is a list of useful books from Rachel […]

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Ask Dr G: Anorexia, malnutrition and your bones

In this podcast, Dr Jennifer Gaudiani talks about your bones, and what the effects of malnutrition caused by a restrictive eating disorder such as anorexia, can be on your bone health. We talk about: How malnutrition affects your bones Bone density Osteoporosis Osteopenia The various treatment options About The Gaudiani […]