Tabitha Farrar

207 posts

I work as an Eating Disorder Recovery Coach for adults. As a recovered anorexia sufferer, I advocate for proper understanding of eating disorders.

Recovery commitments: Allow it to be simple

Over the next couple of weeks I will be posting blogs focusing on “recovery commitments.” These recovery commitments posts will be outlining some of the most common reasons that people in recovery get anxious and stressed and suggesting some simplifications for those moments. I believe that one of the fundamental […]

Body Kindness

Rebecca Scritchfield 2018: Body Kindness and postpartum body image

  Rebecca Scritchfield is a registered dietitian nutritionist, certified exercise physiologist, author of the book Body Kindness, and host of the Body Kindness podcast. Through her weight-inclusive counseling practice, she helps people make peace with food, find the joy in exercise, and create a better life with workable goals that fit individual […]

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When you partner has an eating disorder: Avoiding intimacy

This blog is for partners of adults with eating disorders. However, I’m writing it from the perspective of a person with an eating disorder. I was a person with an eating disorder who loved her partner, but there were times when my actions might have given the opposite impression. So, […]

Family support: is it appropriate for adults too? [Podcast]

In this podcast I talk about my personal highlights from the ICED conference presentation that I was part this year with Rebecka Peeples, Rachel Millner and Therese Waterhaus.   Rebecka Peebles Rebecka Peebles, MD, is an Adolescent Medicine Specialist and Co-director of the Eating Disorder Assessment and Treatment Program at […]

Movement Cold Turkey

Complusive Movement Cold Turkey: Creating space for new things

I mentioned the uncomfortable silence that stopping the compulsions and rituals that many of us with anorexia establish in a previous blog on lower-level movement here. This post is an elaboration on that. A “spiritually enlightened” person once said this to me: “You have to first create space for new […]

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Why my eating disorder turned me into a grocery thief [Podcast]

Personal story time! Not everyone who is suffering from long-term malnutrition turns to stealing, but I think it is a lot more prevalent than most people assume it is. It makes sense why a brain that believes resources are scarce would feel the need to take without giving anything away. […]

Your Brain on Malnutrition: Stealing

This is a tough one. Other scarcity mindset traits like hoarding items, and obsessively saving money are weird but don’t have the same shame and guilt attached to them as stealing does. I have written in detail about my own kleptomania.  In this post I want to further impress that yoinking […]

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Your Brain on Malnutrition: Eating Disorders and Money

I know I have blogged about eating disorders and money before. I have even done some podcasts on it. But I want to make sure that people link anxiety around spending money, and the scarcity mindset that food restriction creates. Scarcity mindset: For the evolving human, food and resource scarcity […]

Recovery Stories: Unrestricted eating and freedom [Podcast]

In this podcast, Tabitha talks to Drake, who is in recovery from an eating disorder and wanted to share some hope.   The Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast Transcript (With thanks to Marie)    Hello there, welcome to this weeks podcast. The week we’ve got another recovery story. A guy called […]

anorexia and hoarding

Your Brain on Malnutrition: Anorexia and Hoarding

I blogged about the scarcity mindset last week. Now I will go a little more into some of the more common behavioral repercussions that I have noticed people with malnourished brains tend to develop. This blog post is about hoarding. Not all of you reading this will have developed a […]

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Your Brain on Malnutrition: Scarcity Mindset

I’ve done a load of YouTube videos on “your brain on malnutrition” but this is such an important aspect of understanding your anorexia or eating disorder behaviours that I’m going to start a series on it in this blog too. Scarcity mindset is what your brain adopts when it believes […]

Recovery Stories: The dangers of diabulimia

In this podcast Tabitha talks to a person in recovery about her struggles with diabulimia.   link to the BBC diabulimia documentary mentioned: https://youtu.be/tSLjM6cZaTo The Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast Recovery Stories: The Dangers of Diabulimia Tabitha: Hello there, welcome to this weeks podcast. This week I’m going to be talking […]

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If you are restricting, purging, compensating, regardless of your body size, this blog is for you

This is another post I should have written a long time ago. I am aware that I use “anorexia” almost exclusively in this blog, but the reason for that is that I try to keep it to my personal experience and anorexia (with a very hefty side of exercise compulsion) […]

Mid-Recovery Clusterfuck: Body Guilt

I’ve written about Mid-Recovery Clusterfuck stuff before, more in the sense of the emotions that blow up when your brain starts to care more about other people and life experiences than it does about obsessing over food and exercise. And the discomfort and grief that comes with the realisation that […]

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Recovery Stories: Recovering despite weight stigma in eating disorder treatment [Podcast]

In this podcast Tabitha talks to Sarah Thompson about her recovery, and her journey into body positivity. We also discuss: Being queer and having an eating disorder Weight stigma in eating disorder treatment The Be Nourished retreat and certification Recovery in an environment that encourages restriction and weight loss Sarah […]

Let’s talk about sex … (and relationships)

Salt and Pepper. Yeah, I’m old. Sex and anorexia don’t usually go all that well together. I’ve known one or two people who have told me that their sex drive actually went up when they were in malnutrition, but that tends to be the anomaly. Most of us experience a […]

[Podcast] Dr Colleen Reichmann on recovery, HEAS, body diversity, and advocacy.

In this podcast Tabitha chats to Dr Colleen Reichmann about her recovery, health at every size, body diversity, and advoacy and activism. Dr. Colleen Reichmann is a licensed clinical psychologist, practicing in Williamsburg, VA. She works in her private practice, Wildflower Therapy, and is a staff psychologist at the College […]

Just because you are an adult with anorexia doesn’t mean shouldn’t have support

I’ve got a presentation coming up with the fabulous Rebecka Peebles, Rachel Millner, and Therese Waterhaus in April at AED that stems from this topic. It is titled “Why go it alone? How Family-based Treatment of Young Adults with Anorexia is Possible and Productive in Reaching a Full Recovery” If you’re […]

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Podcast: Study shows diet talk and behaviour passes down through generations

In this podcast Tabitha Farrar talks to Jerica Berge about a new study illistrating how diet talk and encouragement to diet can be passed down through generations Parent Encouragement to Diet From Adolescence Into Adulthood May Cause Intergenerational Harm Study: http://www.practiceupdate.com/content/parent-encouragement-to-diet-from-adolescence-into-adulthood-may-cause-intergenerational-harm/65474 In this longitudinal study 556 adolescents were surveyed when in […]

Recovery Stories: Kayla K and why all diets should be damned! [Podcast]

In this podcast, Tabitha chats to Kayla Kotecki about her path to recovery, and the story behind damnthediets.com. We talk about: unrestricted eating diet culture obcessive and complusive exercise bikini contest culture social pressures to lose weight and exercise extreme hunger Learn more about Kayla Kotecki here: http://damnthediets.com/ Transcript with […]

Force feeding yourself as an adult [Podcast]

In this podcast I talk about the skill of being able to force feed yourself as an adult in recovery from anorexia. In the process of making yourself eat food you are afraid of you achieve both nutritional rehabiliation and neural rewiring goals. You train your brain that these foods […]